
Feb-Mar 2019 and Feb-Mar 2020 Rishikesh, India. Back in August I wrote this to close a post about India:
In India you will be confronted with your humanity: in the face of an old man in a filthy dhoti using a long stick for balance as he shuffles along the street; in the faces and strong but tired bodies of the women carrying bricks on their heads at construction sites; in the face of the severely deformed beggar-woman whose smile lights up the sky as she recognises you from previous days and knows you see her humanity; in the inscrutable faces of the sadhus who have given up everything in the hope of gaining it all; in the faces of the tribes of young men who swagger down the road to loud bhangra music; in the unrestrained joy of the dancing guests of a wedding celebration filling the street; in the unrestrained colours of the women’s saris; and in the shining face of the woman who speaks little English but nevertheless wants to know you and wants you to say hello to her mama on WhatsApp.
India will reflect back to you both the best and worst of humanity in hundreds of strands, millions of hopes and dreams and disappointments, billions of heartaches and joys that can never be separated, that coalesce into a ball that can never be unravelled. India will rip you open and tear you into a million pieces, and then grab your heart and reform it into a golden radiant flower. There is nowhere else on earth quite like it.
It felt like a coda, as if I was summing up all I had to say about our time in India, but I guess I’m not quite ready to let it go. I still have more images to share and stories to tell.
There are temples, big and small all over town. Every day on our wanderings up one side of the Ganges and back down the other we pass this one.
One day I finally go inside and am immediately transfixed by the serenity, and the unexpected shabby-chic beauty of it.
And then there’s this temple right at the level of the sidewalk.
Every day there are loud bhajans blasting out from it, some that I’m familiar with: the Gayatri Mantra, Govinda, Hare Krishna, and I sing along with whatever is playing as we walk by. One day I go in and sit in the back behind the priests and absorb the uplifting devotional music. Bhajanam means reverence, and bhajans tell of legendary epics, stories from the scriptures, the teachings of the saints, or loving devotion to a deity. They are songs of reverence and devotion, but they also feel like fun, and are great music for dancing.
4 March 2019, the date of Maha Shivaratri. But we don’t know what day it is, let alone that it’s the date of this annual festival to Lord Shiva. By luck we happen upon it anyway, and of course the doors are open to everyone. It is the Indian way.
In Indian mythology the Himalayan Mountain Range is the home of Shiva, one of the three main Hindu gods, and devotion to Shiva is strong in Rishikesh, sitting as it does at the foothills of the Himalayas. Maha Shivaratri means The Great Night of Shiva and signifies a focus on overcoming darkness and ignorance in life and in the world. It is a solemn ceremony centred on a huge lingam that dominates the room.
A lingam is an abstract representation and the primary devotional image of Shiva. It’s basically a giant phallus. It is usually accompanied by a yoni at its base, which is a vagina and represents the goddess Shakti. On the floor next to the huge lingam there is a small lingam with its yoni base. Devotees are taking turns to pour milk over it. The base is filled with devotional offerings of money, fruit, sweets, and the like.
But it is not the flowing milk, nor the yoni offerings that first get my attention; it’s the flowers. Hanging straight down, and strung in huge loops from the ceiling, and patterned all over the lingam, the entire place is richly decorated with strand upon strand of colourful flowers. Every ceremony and celebration of any kind in this country has garlands of flowers. It is the Indian way.
Maha Shivaratri can include all-night vigils and prayers, all-day fasting, and meditative yoga. What we get to see is a priest on the balcony pouring milk onto the top of the lingam as another priest reads from the scriptures.
The scriptures are read; prayers are uttered; milk is poured from above and down below; people sit chatting in groups on the floor as others come and go. It gets a little crowded from time to time but people make room for each other and despite the devotional nature of it, it all feels a little like a party. We get a swift glimpse of the enigmatic guru in the inner sanctum,
before we go back outside and find the real party happening all around the huge glorious garlanded statue of Lord Shiva,
where someone is handing out small cardboard dishes of food. And when the contents are eaten the dishes are dropped on the ground and the cows move in to finish them off. It is the Indian way.
As well as temples there are also statues of Hindu gods all over town.
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From temples and gods to something completely different. We’re wandering through Parmarth Niketan Ashram one day and I see this:
World Toilet College. Only In India!
Parmarth Niketan, situated on the banks of the Ganges is one of the biggest interfaith spiritual institutions in the country.
Pujya Swamiji, shortly after becoming the president and spiritual head of Parmarth Niketan, advocated the placement of public garbage bins at the ashram. One of his detractors accused him of trying to make the place too western! This is the kind of prejudice that is slowly being overcome in India. Pujya Swamiji however, had much bigger plans than garbage bins. He’s been advocating for toilets since 2012, hence the World Toilet College on the grounds of the ashram.
November 19th is World Toilet Day! Who knew! I suppose it’s easy enough for us lucky westerners to be amused by this because we take access to bathrooms and proper hygiene for granted. It’s actually a significant problem for much of the world and Swamiji is committed to bringing about change. On World Toilet Day at the World Toilet Summit he said this: It’s wonderful to be together on World Toilet Day! Who would have ever thought we would gather for toilets? We gather for peace, we gather for parties, but for poop? However, this is what is needed! We cannot have real, meaningful peace in the world as long as there are children suffering and dying due to lack of clean water, lack of sanitation, and hygiene.
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From poop to weddings. Hindu weddings in India typically last for three days, and one of the most important parts of the ritual is the groom processing through the streets on the back of a white horse. Presumably so he can swoop in and rescue his bride and they’ll live happily-ever-after. Sorry. Couldn’t resist the sarcasm. The symbolism really is a bit much for me. Anyway the groom on his white horse is surrounded by a brass band and dancing relatives. That part is awesome! We first encountered this in 2012 in Agra and were invited to join in. So much fun! If you spend any time at all in India it’s likely you’ll run into a wedding procession. So of course it happened again in Rishikesh.
Indian weddings are lavish. An “average” Indian wedding could cost between two million to fifty million rupees (27,000 to 675,000 US$). According to Reliance Money a person in India is estimated to spend one-fifth of the total wealth accumulated in his lifetime on his wedding. Crazy!
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From crazy to heart-breaking. Poverty in India is probably even worse now than it was pre-Covid. I could just gloss over it, or not mention it at all, but sadly, this too is the Indian way. People live on the streets. These men in Rishikesh have their “homes” on the shelf of a concrete embankment next to a main road with its roar of constant snarling traffic and rising dust. No doubt they go elsewhere when the monsoon rains come.
Almost every day we walk past this man’s “home” on the ghats by the river underneath the balcony overhang of a car park that’s up at street level.
It intrigues me because I’ve struggled financially in the past and know exactly what it is to make a home from scraps and old broken down things, and how to “live in poverty with dignity” as my friend Ilene described it. I love that he has lines strung up with pegs for his laundry, and if you peer inside you can see his water bottles hanging up, and tiffin bowls on the shelf. I want to go inside and see what else he has in there to make this little place a home but of course I can’t. Best of all for me is his garden! He has about a dozen pots there each with a thriving plant. This was in 2019. Sadly when we returned in 2020 it was all gone.
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And now for a little backpacker lore. We eat at several of the backpacker restaurants and every one has a dessert on the menu called Hello To The Queen. It takes us a while but finally we cave. We have no idea what it is but with a name like that we simply have to try it.
Although it can vary from place to place the most consistent ingredients are graham crackers (similar to tea or marie biscuits to you non-North Americans), caramelised bananas, ice cream, warm chocolate sauce and whipped cream. The more, um, sophisticated, versions also have marshmallows, chocolate chips and nuts. And a significant feature is that it comes in enormous portions. It can be found on the menu at most backpacker hangouts all over India.
Here’s the story: In Pushkar, a long long time ago, an Israeli backpacker had been indulging in the local weed, and he had an epic case of the munchies. In a local restaurant he asked for ice cream, with chocolate sauce, bananas, whipped cream, cookies, and marshmallows. And lots of it. Then, being stoned and his creative juices flowing he gave it a grand name. I can just imagine him sitting at the table and when this enormous dessert is placed in front of him he looks at it and says Hello to the queen!
Another account I read is that he had an upset stomach. Yeah. Just no. This was not a case of an upset stomach.
Anyway we try it three times at three different places. They are all a little disappointing, though the ice cream is always good. One has Graham crumbs instead of crackers,
one has no bananas at all but instead has apple slices prettily arranged around the ice cream with pomegranate seeds on top – lovely but not really Hello To The Queen,
and I don’t remember the third since I didn’t photograph it.
I’ll finish with a series of images without any explanation. I include them because there’s something I like about them – the light, or the subject matter, the colour, the framing, or the quintessential Indian-ness, or all of the above.
This finally concludes my series of posts about India. Four visits ranging in length from one month to three; a total of seven months over a period of eight years. We fell in love with India, but I doubt we’ll ever go back. At this point we don’t even know if we’ll travel again. Once there’s an effective Covid vaccine we probably will, but our first choice will likely be to countries we’ve not previously visited. So much world, so little time.
All words and images by Alison Louise Armstrong unless otherwise noted
© Alison Louise Armstrong and Adventures in Wonderland – a pilgrimage of the heart, 2010-2020.
It’s good to know that you visited India’s one of the holy city, Rishikesh. And you describe it very beautifully.
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Thank you so much Ankur. I’m glad you enjoyed it. We also went to Pushkar, Varanasi and Haridwar so we’ve experienced some other holy cities. You have an amazing country!
Alison
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Thank you for your love…
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You’re most welcome.
Alison
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A descriptive analysis of India and things Indian. It helps to see the country through ‘outsider’ vision
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Thanks travtrails. I guess you know by now how much we love India. I also find myself interested in outsider’s feelings and experience of my two countries – Canada and Australia. I think we can get new insight into our country when we see how others see it. I hope you’ve enjoyed my posts about India.
Alison
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I look forward to your India posts….
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They’re all here:
https://alisonanddon.com/category/india/
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Ahhh, thank you for this trip to India and its quintessential Indian-ness – love it! And appreciate the various angles and perspectives. My travels to this colourful country are so many years ago now, and I wonder if and when I will get to visit again… Your introductory paragraphs describe the human experience so well. xo Surati
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Thanks Surati. This was a kind of conclusion post – fitting in all the bits and pieces that hadn’t made it to earlier posts. I’m glad you liked it. We too wonder if we’ll ever get to visit again, and think probably not.
I’m pretty proud of the opening paragraphs – occasionally inspiration strikes lol.
Alison xo
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Well Alison, as they say, India is a land of a thousand tales and a million stories – it’s so great to see yours added to the eternal treasure trove. 🙂 I am constantly struck by your amazing photos of people. You always seem to capture their true essence. I love the Pushkar story about Hello to the queen! 🙂 ~Terri
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Thanks so much Terri. I must say it’s easy to photograph people in India because they rarely have an objection to it, usually welcome it, and at times actually ask for it. It makes people photography very easy. In other countries I have to be a bit more surreptitious about it.
I also loved the story about Hello to the queen. Fun! Upset stomach? Not likely lol.
Alison
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What a beautiful and deep experience! I have been to an Indian wedding so I know what you’re talking about with that!
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Thank you so much WinterRose. I guess it’s pretty obvious how much we love India. There’s no place like it. Lucky you going to an Indian wedding. We had that one experience in Agra but it was just one evening. I imagine the whole 3 day extravaganza would be pretty epic.
Alison
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I was only able to go for 2 of the 3 days, but yeah, it was
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Love the story of Hello to the Queen and all the photo variations. You give a wonderful kaleidoscope picture of India. Hope you get to renew your exploration of our world. Thank you for all you have shared giving us a virtual tour with you.
My son is thinking of retiring abroad…perhaps Portugal because the people were so friendly and kind. He is single without children. Where would you go if you didn’t have ties to the states?
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Thanks so much Eileen, my pleasure. I’m so glad you’ve been enjoying my posts. I do love doing it.
We spent nearly 6 years homeless roaming the world and decided there’s nowhere we’d rather live than where we are in Vancouver. So we actually wouldn’t go anywhere.
I’ve not been to Portugal, though would love to go. All I can say for your son is that I know (online) people who emigrated to Portugal both from the US, and from England, and don’t regret the decision at all. I’ve heard not one single bad thing about Portugal, ever. Good luck to him!
Alison
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I have enjoyed reading your posts on India and your impressions of the country. You let us see all sides of it, from lavish weddings to people living on the streets. It is a country of contrasts. It is also a country full of colour which you captured so well. Hello to the Queen is funny, sort of like an Eton Mess.
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Thank you so much Darlene. It is indeed a country of contrasts, like no other I think. And I love that they are not afraid of colour, especially the women’s saris.
I’d never heard of an Eton mess – had to go look it up. I get where pavlova came from now. My mum used to make the most amazing pav. There’s a never-to-be-resolved debate as to whether pavlova is an Oz original or from NZ. Of course being an Aussie I say it’s Australian!
Alison
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I can feel how much you miss your soul place. ❤
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Thanks Julie. I do miss it – especially when I get looking at the photos, but I’m pretty content about not going back, at least not for a long time. But you never know where life will lead. After the first time Don said he’d never go back. Then we saw The Best Exotic Marigold Hotel and that was enough to get us back. And then it was following a spiritual teacher for the third and fourth time. India gets to you. For all its chaos and dirt and poverty, it grabs a hold of your soul somehow.
Alison
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Glad you are well and thanks for the wonderful pictures and stories. I never tire of the vibrant colors. India is a special place for us also.
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Thanks so much Annie and Steve. I’m so glad you enjoyed this post. I too never tire of the colours, and of the people. Obviously you know what I mean. It’s such an amazing place.
Alison xo
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This post reminds me some of the things I love the most about India: its colorful and vibrant cultures, the plethora of Hindu pantheon, and the highly-ornate buildings and structures. Probably the deeply-rooted connection between my home country and the South Asian nation also helps me appreciate the latter more, although my trip to the southern part of the country five years ago was not always sunshine and rainbows. But I’d love to go back one day, and I think if I ever come to Rishikesh I’d love to try Hello To The Queen myself. It looks like a party in a bowl!
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Our trips to India have not always been sunshine and rainbows either lol. I think it’s inevitable, especially (for me anyway) getting sick a couple of times. But for sure you’re right about how colourful and vibrant the culture is. And I imagine I’ll love Indonesia for the same reasons.
Hello To The Queen is available in Pushkar and Delhi, and probably a bunch of other places on the backpacker trail, not just Rishikesh. Hope you get to try it one day!
Alison
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Alison, I would not tire of your posts from India even if you wrote dozens more. Your descriptions and photos bring the country to life for me. Mike and I got a taste of Hindu traditions and ceremonies at temples in Sri Lanka. I too was amazed by the flowers, the music, and the feel of fun within the reverence. That stat on the amount spent on one’s wedding as a percentage of total wealth is staggering, and fun story about how Hello to the Queen came to be. At this point, I have no idea when Mike and I will get to visit India…grateful to see it through your eyes.
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Thank you so much Caroline. I hope you get to see India with your own eyes one day. It’s a trip that’s for sure!
Aren’t the Hindu traditions wild! I remember loving the Bali flavour of them (quieter and more reverential but still colourful and a party feeling), and then the Indian traditions take it a whole step further.
I’d heard about the crazy amount people spend on weddings there, and a little research confirmed it. Completely nuts.
So glad we eventually also researched Hello To The Queen too lol. Yummy! 🙂
Alison
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I have enjoyed the whole series of your posts about India, never tired of these vibrant colours and way of life. Hopefully we can visit India, one day, until then I’m grateful to see it through your eyes. Great photos, as always!
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Thank you so much Christie. I’m glad you’ve enjoyed my posts about this amazing country. There really is nowhere like it. It’s intense but so colourful, and the people are so friendly and open. I hope you get there yourself one day.
Alison
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Every time you post about India it’s like I get sucked in through my computer screen and then the end of the post comes and I’m released back into reality. Your thoughts and images transport me there with such impact. Your love for the country comes through so clearly in your portrayal of it. It’s an interesting idea that maybe the places we love most provoke our best writing because we want so deeply to convey our feelings. You’ve done that here — as you always do! Hello to the Queen! 🙂 Thanks for the escape.
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Thank you so much Kelly for your kind words. It’s the best compliment! I’m always striving to convey what it’s like to be in the place I’m writing about, but I think you definitely have a point that the places we love most may provoke our best writing. It’s so much easier to write about a place that inspires us. The enthusiasm then seems to flow naturally. Happy to know you enjoyed this little escape to India.
Alison
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Bravo Alison for this beautiful post and tribute to India. You really made us both feel a bit homesick for India. The first paragraphs from an earlier post is an eloquent description both poetic and accurate. So captures how we feel about India. Thank you for these words.
The photographs are spectacular. Love the first one with all the loaded trucks and also the gallery at the end. Truly beautiful job.
Peta & Ben
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Thank you both so much. Those opening paragraphs were actually written when I was still in Rishikesh, and came easily. I do love it when true inspiration strikes.
And photography in India is always a dream – so much to see, so much colour, so much that’s unique to India, and the people rarely object to being photographed.
We miss India too, especially when we’re looking back through photos. There’s something so magical about it.
Alison
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Another post to drag me into another realm, wonderful writing and photos Alison. It is clear that India has a hold on you, and you a hold on India ~ and the magic of this holy city of Rishikesh beats with life with your writing. The colors are fantastic, and the last photo captures my feeling when I finished reading. Wishing you a great start to the holiday season.
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Thank you so much Dalo. I appreciate your kind words. India definitely has a hold on me. It’s an extraordinary place with so much suffering, and so much heart, and Rishikesh itself is special. As is Varanasi, another holy town. I’m glad you enjoyed my post. Happy holidays to you too.
Alison
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Beautiful post as always. Inspiring & heartbreaking at the same time. I have only spent 2 weeks in India so far. I found it challenging but think I need to spend more time there to fall in love as you clearly have. Your photos are stunning as always & your writing really transported me there.
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Thanks so much Sue. Inspiring and heart breaking pretty much sums up India. I’m not surprised you found it challenging. We did initially too, and I think pretty much everyone who is new to India does. Actually it’s challenging enough for the people who live there, but more so for us westerners, especially when we’re not used to it.
I love photographing in India because the people generally love to be photographed so it makes street photography easy. I’m glad you felt transported – it’s the best compliment.
Alison
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Oh, my. I don’t think you’ll ever have India out of your system, and it’s easy to see why. I had enjoyed your previous posts about Rikikesh so much that I went back and read them again 🙂 Luminous photography, as usual. So glad you gave the back story on the World Toilet College and the admirable work its founder is doing to improve sanitation there. The disappearance of the man’s makeshift home under the car park made me sad. I wonder what happened to him? And Hello to the Queen sounds a lot like what we used to call S’mores at Girl Scout camp – graham crackers, marshmallows, and chocolate bars wrapped up in foil and heated on the campfire. I wonder if there’s a connection?? Thanks for another wonderful post, amiga!
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Wow, thank you so much Susan. I’m so glad to hear you’ve been enjoying *several* of my posts about Rishikesh! Even reading them twice. Made my day.
I suspect that you’re right, that I’ll maybe never have India out of my system. It’s such an extraordinary country.
The man who was living in that sweet little home on the ghats no doubt had to move as soon as the monsoon rains came. I hope he found himself another little spot somewhere.
I have heard of s’mores, but I’ve never been tempted to seek one out since I’m not a fan of marshmallows, though the rest sounds pretty amazing. I doubt there’s a connection since it’s widely accepted that the originator of Hello To The Queen was from Israel, and apparently the Israelis even have their own name for it.
Alison
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What a feast! And I am not just talking about the ‘hello to the Queen’ although that looks pretty yummy (and Don looks like he is evaluating a fine wine – haha). The flower decorations are just out of this world. I’m glad you added some random photos at the end because that one of the men amid the rebar is wonderfully different, and I love it.
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Thanks so much Lexie. Hello To The Queen is pretty yummy. I’ve made my own version 3 times at home, and think I’ve finally perfected it.
Indian flower decorations are extraordinary – so detailed, and ubiquitous. I’ve never seen a celebration or festival that didn’t have them. As you can imagine the flower industry is huge.
The men in the rebars is one of my faves too. I had so many photos, and it was really hard to eliminate – hence the gallery at the end 🙂
Alison
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It’s all a bit more than I can take in right now. 😉 But a wonderful post, and wonderful memories of life lived so very fully.
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Thanks so much Lynn. India is intense that’s for sure, even just in stories and pictures, but I do hope you’re ok!
Alison
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Thank you. Your posts are wonderful!
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Thank you so much Shanda. You’re most welcome. I’m glad you enjoyed them. India is such a special place.
Alison
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