
Canberra December 3 to February 15, 2023.
Including all the halfs and steps, but not including Don’s family, I have, I think, (sometimes it’s hard to keep track):
three sisters,
one brother-in-law,
sixteen nieces and nephews, some by birth, some by marriage, one sadly no longer with us,
ten great nieces and nephews, some by birth, some by marriage,
four great great nieces and nephews,
and there’s also a greyhound, a kelpie, a cat, and I’m sure sundry other pets that I’m unaware of.
Which makes me a great great aunt, and Don a great great uncle.
The play on words for the title of this post was an obvious choice, but to add to that, one of my nieces married a man whose last name is Matters. I mean really, under the circumstances, why would you not change your name? So of course she did.
Most of this enormous clan gathered for a big family reunion last (Australian) summer. Also, two cousins who I haven’t seen for thirty or forty years, visited Canberra with their spouses and children. What follows is a visual tribal record. Not everyone is here; some managed to get in front of my camera more often than others, some not at all. Still, it’s a true account of a big family connecting, reconnecting, enjoying each other, talking, laughing, bickering, playing, loving; four generations walking in the footsteps of my parents. Inevitably, with this many people, we all get on better with some more than others, but that’s not important. What matters is that we are family, and that trumps everything.


















Canberra is situated on what was and always will be Aboriginal land; the lands of the Ngunnawal, Ngunawal and Ngambri peoples.
Next post: All about a couple of brief trips to the big smoke, aka Sydney.
All words and images by Alison Louise Armstrong unless otherwise noted
© Alison Louise Armstrong and Adventures in Wonderland – a pilgrimage of the heart, 2010-2023.

















Looks like an amazing gathering! So glad you got to be there.
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Thanks Leigh. It really was amazing. We all had a lot of fun, and made lots of good memories.
Alison
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What a wonderful reunion and the photos are a beautiful visual record of your family gathering.
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Thanks Vicki. It was a really lovely time, and having all the photos brings it all back.
Alison
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What wonderful memories. Thanks for sharing.
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It was a really fabulous time, and yes, lots of memories from going through the photos. I have so many it was really hard to curate them for this post 😂
Next time I’m back we’ll meet IRL!
Alison
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Wonder-full.
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Thanks Iqbal, yes it was!
Alison
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Something to make everyone smile, Alison.
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Oh what a lovely thing to say. For sure we were all smiling – a lot!
Alison
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So much happiness. Beautiful!
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Thanks Helen. Yes, happiness – I’m suddenly reminded of the closing scene at the airport in that movie Love Actually. It’s everywhere.
Alison
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That is so cool you all got together. My family had a reunion on my grandma’s 90th and it was awesome to see everyone in the same place. You’ll cherish these photos forever. Also, the guy with the beard and long hair is super photogenic. And so is the greyhound 🙂
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For sure, it was really cool. There were so many different gatherings, big and small, so many people to see that I hadn’t seen for years, many to meet for the first time. Lots of memories now.
The guy in the beard is a true original – was in a local rock band for years, was *never* going to cut his hair.
And I’m not a dog person, but I love that greyhound.
Alison
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Such a lovely gathering!
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Thanks Christie, it really was.
Alison
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So many beautiful photos and memories made tohether! Family: the only six-letter word in which unconditional love, exasperation, and flat-out feuds can coexist. Sometimes, the only thing we can muster up is, “It’s complicated.” But for all the quarrels and misgivings we may have at times, we can’t deny that there’s nothing like family. They’ll always be the once source of love we’ll never have to earn; the place we run to for help and comfort; and the ever-steady constant in the inevitable tides of change. Thanks for sharing, and have a wonderful day 🙂 Aiva xx
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Thank you for this wonderful description of family. Yes, sometimes it’s complicated, but always there’s a bond that can’t be denied. And I’m lucky enough to be part of a really caring family.
Wishing you and your family a wonderful day also. 🤗
Alison
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🥰🥰🥰
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I thoroughly enjoyed this post. Coming from a big family myself, I can appreciate the fun and laughter, the similarities and dissimilarities, the good, the bad and the sometimes ugly, but always the love. I also LOVE the dogs.
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Thanks so much Darlene, I’m glad you enjoyed it. Your description of your family sounds just like my own.
I knew you’d love the dogs! I’m much more of a cat person but I fell in love with Sylvie.
Alison
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A beautiful collection of memories. So did she change here name? I would, Maggie Matters 🙂
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Thanks Maggie. It was so fun to go back through all the photos and see all the good times we had together. Most definitely, she did change her name.
And Maggie Matters indeed! It’s such a great name isn’t it!
Alison
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That’s a lot of people! I’m not the greatest at family gatherings, but as long as food and snacks are around I’ll be good. In photo #12, I believe the shirt he is wearing is an Indonesian batik, which is nice to see in an Australian family event.
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It *is* a lot of people! Lol, that’s why it’s so hard to keep track.
I think food, snacks, drinks are pretty much essentials, and almost all our gatherings were entered around a coffee outing or a meal.
Almost certainly the shirt is Indonesian batik – we are a family of travellers.
Alison
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The kids and all the bubbles! Wow! Love that photo! Great photo essay…
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Thank you so much. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
That little one was having so much fun with the bubble machine. It was his birthday and I think that was his favourite gift.
Alison
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So many nice clicks. Love the photos. Great shoot and thoughts.
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Thank you so much Harpreet. I’m glad you enjoyed it.
Alison
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Great collection of family photos, Alice. The love is obvious! –Curt
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Thanks so much Curt. It was a pretty wonderful time, and yes, lots and lots of love floating around; enough for sure that our differences either enhanced things, or didn’t matter.
Alison
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Differences enhancing things or not mattering is a good lesson for today’s world, Alison. We could use a lot more of that. –Curt
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I see Sophie the Greyhound managed to get in front of the camera quite a bit!
Your comment about getting along with some more than others reminds me of an article I read recently about how having big families was good for us in that it forced us to interact with folks whose beliefs are different than our own. The article went on to say that although it’s great to have the choice to choose your own family/community these days, we have perhaps lost some resilience and tolerance by *only* choosing community/family whose beliefs align with ours. An interesting idea!
Favorite photo in this one was dead easy: the kids with the bubbles!
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Lol, that Sylvie – she’s everywhere. 😂 We took her to the dog park and used treats to get her to run back and forth – like a racing greyhound 😂 It was fun!
I do like that idea that families present an opportunity for facing our differences, practicing healing, and developing resilience. So many families are estranged I think because of hurts that they’ve been unable to heal.
The kid with the bubbles is one of my great great nephews, and one of his little friends. It was his birthday.
Alison
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Some great photos. You are lucky to have such a big family!
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Thanks Tracey. Between me and two of my sisters I think we managed to capture the vibe. It was a lovely heartfelt time. And yes, I do feel lucky to have such a big family.
Alison
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This is such a beautiful post – a sea of happy faces and smiles, and as you say, “What matters is that we are family, and that trumps everything.” Indeed, it does, and if there is one thing in this world that helps me sleep well at night, it is understanding that family is everything and how lucky I am (we are) to have this type of support in life. The kids with the bubbles is a tremendous shot, but I also like the one where you are all seated and looking straight into the camera with a playful/serious look on your faces. This collection of photos will be such an excellent reminder for you all of the important things in life… Well done!
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Thank you so much Dalo. I know what you mean about being lucky with this – so many people who support me, here in Vancouver, and across the country, and across the world.
Naturally I have several shots of that little boy playing with the bubble machine – fun to watch! I’m glad you like it.
And us all in a row on the log – my sister took it, but I can’t remember what her instruction was. Either way it worked.
Alison
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I can see where travels would push someone into photography – visiting all those fabulous places and a photo can help those memories thrive. Funny, I got into photography due to capturing great images (my Dad and sister are great photographers), and then I found travel a great way to expand my photography. A bit opposite than you, but we arrive at the same place 😊
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It is family that got me interested in photography – and I do think being fortunate to have a close-knit family gives us more freedom to explore our creative side… and also take a few more risks with travel as well 🙂
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There’s so much to love in this post, Alison – the unscripted moments of joy and all the cross-generational interactions. A photo essay is even more special when every single person (and dog!) we see has a personal connection to you somehow. You can really feel Sylvie’s energy and it was sweet that she nuzzled you while on the escalator. Like Randall, I found the one of the kids with the bubble machine especially compelling. And there is this coziness about the shot of your family members seated around the dining table.
Both my parents’ families run big groups on WhatsApp and over the years I have missed too many reunions, weddings, and funerals, especially on my dad’s side who are all in Canada and the States. I haven’t seen most of them in more than a decade now. We are talking about organizing a Christmas reunion next year in Taiwan so fingers crossed that will actually happen!
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Thanks so much James. It was a really special time. There were some family members who I met for the first time (new spouses since we were last all gathered together).
As for Sylvie – I’m not really a dog person, but I fell in love with her; she’s so sweet-natured.
The dinner table shot – a cousin and his wife and children and their partners. The only one I knew from earlier in my life was my cousin, and I hadn’t seen him in probably 20-30 years! It was an amazing gathering.
I hope your family reunion happens! It can be overwhelming, and exhausting, and so so special.
Alison
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